Loving Kindness

Practice Loving Kindness Toward You


 

The Buddha said, “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Read that again.

Loving oneself seems so elusive today! Why? Why do people not love themselves, or worse, think they don’t deserve love from anyone else. With no mention of “affection,” because I think it’s redundant to love, which is the key – The Key – to this and every other life. Love can be learned with the right intentions and the right circumstances, but love is also part of our “firmware” when we are born. It’s not put into use for a few years, but it’s there and one is, hopefully, shown love from the time they are born. Sadly, that is not happening enough in our world. 

Loving Yourself

You deserve your love and admiration. You are enough and you are beautiful. We all are! Not one shit shall be given about what others think and say with regards to who you are as a person – who you are inside. All the clothes, houses, cars, schools, glasses, shoes, pools, flat screens, and so forth mean NOTHING. Nice to have, yes, but no amount of money, fame, or notoriety will fill you like loving yourself fills you. It is paramount that you begin the process of learning how to love yourself. You then teach your s/o, children, neighbors, and it takes off. The collective unconscious picks it all up and spreads loving kindness to all. 

Loving Kindness Meditation

I found Loving Kindness Meditation, known as Meta in Pali, five years ago through the podcast channel for Insight Meditation Center (IMC) in Redwood City, California. They were the only “Meditation for Beginners” podcast I found and still find it the best variety of speakers and topics meditation podcast today. Visit their Web site and follow the links to the six-week meditation course for beginners and start there. IMC teaches Loving Kindness Meditation and they do it well. They have a retreat center where they host 1 day to 30-day meditation retreats (and probably  longer.)

Loving kindness is good for you and your Self. Loving kindness toward every being on the planet, every plant, animal, fish, all deserve thoughts of loving kindness. Enemies, friends, mothers, fathers, hated siblings, and YOU deserve your focus of loving kindness. Meditation is an opportunity to focus your loving kindness on one person or one group of people, and always on yourself. Practice Loving Kindness meditation 20 minutes a day and learn to love yourself.

Who’s Your Therapist?

If you don’t have a therapist then find one (not a shrink – a Doctor Psychiatrist). Licensed Clinical Social Workers (LCSW) are therapists. Most list a specialization (drug abuse, teenagers, addictions, and so forth,) but you end up working best with the one you work best with; specialization or not, it works. The therapist is a non-biased licensed person whose job it is to listent to you and help you find a path leading to your answers. They aren’t to be used on an “as needed” basis either. Find a good therapist that you are comfortable with and continue with them for the next 10 years. These therapists help you on your journey through life; the first half of life (get married, kids, career, raise kids) and the second half of life (no kids, no idea who you’re married to, shit starts to make no sense, and so forth, or a “midlife crisis,” which I’m going through myself.) A guide through both halfs of life is very helpful.

Face it, life is a bitch and a good guide (therapist) is very handy to have. Doctor-client privileges exist, so your discussions are completely private (there are some terms and conditions that apply around crime, self harm, suicide, and so on,) and a good therapist will walk with you down the path, lead you to your answers, but will not point them out. It’s like the saying “If you give a man a fish, he’ll eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he’ll eat for a lifetime.” If your therapist tells you what to do and gives you all the answers, then you aren’t going to learn a damn thing. But when they lead you to the answer and YOU find it, that is what Oprah calls an “ah-ha moment,” and it’s quite amazing when you learn something, that clarifies something about you that you’ve never understood. Find out why you do what you do. It’s amazing.

I am in no way promoting IMC for any reason except my personal bias.

Water of Life

Water with weeds
Maybe the next place where the Water bubbles up.

 


 

This is a story of the Water of Life, which was said to be one of Carl Jung’s favorites. It is a myth that has always, and will always, manifest itself in our present day life. Read it and think about the Water of Life in your life and from where it came. 

Flowing without effort, the Water of Life made itself known on the earth by bubbling up in a well. People came from all over to drink the clean, pure, and invigorating nourishment. But humans are not content to leave anything in this Edenic state, thus they began to put fences around the well, charge fees, and ultimately fought over ownership of the property to be able to limit who can and cannot drink from the well. Soon after all of this started, the well was owned by the rich and powerful. The Water of Life became angry and offended and stopped flowing, and bubbled up somewhere else.

Water Pool
Water of Life bubbles up in the most unexpected places.

 

The powerful, elite people that own the property on which the well is fenced and locked, were so engrossed in their own power, ownership, money, and so forth, that they didn’t notice that the Water of Life had stopped flowing. They continued selling the magic water that didn’t exist and few people noticed that it wasn’t the magic water it once was. Some did notice and set off to find the magic water again, and they found it only to claim it, fence it off, charge admission, and so forth, and ultimately offend the Water of Life, which would stop bubbling up there and bubbles up elsewhere; this continues to this day.

The Water of Life is always flowing and is available to anyone with the courage to search for the living water in its current form. The water is always found in the most unexpected places, but it is always flowing.


 

Self Compassion – Accept Yourself

Why Self-Compassion Is the Key to Being Our Authentic Selves – Tiny Buddha


I don’t often site other blogs because I don’t want to plagiarize, cause conflict, basically I don’t want to piss anyone off. However, this article hits home for me and I wanted to share it.

The article is on Tinybuddha.com and starts with the following quote:

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

 

Puppy falling asleep gif
He barely catches himself…too cute.

After you finish watching the cute puppy, go read the article:

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/self-compassion-key-authentic-selves/

Read it a couple of times and share it. Everyone I know struggles with this. “Keeping up with the Joneses” causes much anxiety and depression, and it is unnecessary.

Enjoy.

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